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First bites to family food

From around six months to the family table: responsive feeding, real variety and practical next steps.

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If you only do one thing

Check for the three signs of readiness.

Starting solids is a gradual process. The first step is knowing your baby is ready.

Step 1Sits steadily

Your baby can sit with support and hold their head steady.

Step 2Reaches for food

They can look at food, grab it and bring it to their mouth.

Step 3Swallows

They swallow food rather than pushing it straight back out.

Getting started

Signs your baby is ready

Babies are usually ready for solid food at around 6 months. By then, most show all three of these signs:

Sits and holds their head steady

They can stay in a sitting position with support and keep their head steady.

Coordinates eyes, hands and mouth

They can look at food, pick it up and bring it to their mouth.

Swallows food

They swallow food rather than pushing it back out with their tongue.

Chewing fists, waking in the night or wanting more milk are normal baby behaviour, and are not signs that your baby needs solid food. If your baby was born prematurely, or you are thinking about starting before 6 months, talk to your health visitor or doctor first.

The first few weeks

What to offer first

Start with small amounts, once a day, at a time when your baby is not too tired or hungry. Milk is still their main food at this stage.

  1. Vegetables and fruit

    Mashed or soft-cooked sticks of carrot, parsnip, broccoli, potato, sweet potato, apple or pear. Offer vegetables that are less sweet, like broccoli, early and often.

  2. Iron-rich foods

    Babies need iron from around 6 months. Try mashed lentils or beans, well-cooked egg, soft meat or fish, or iron-fortified cereal.

  3. Starchy foods

    Porridge, soft toast fingers, pasta, rice and potatoes.

  4. Dairy

    Full-fat plain yoghurt and pasteurised cheese are fine from around 6 months. Cow's milk can be used in cooking, but should not be the main drink until 12 months.

You can feed your baby with a spoon, let them feed themselves with finger foods (often called baby-led weaning), or combine both. All three are fine.

Allergies

Introducing foods that can cause allergies

From around 6 months, the NHS advises introducing the foods that most commonly cause allergies one at a time, in very small amounts, so you can spot any reaction. These include cow's milk, eggs, foods containing gluten, peanuts and tree nuts (smooth nut butter or ground nuts, never whole), seeds, soya, fish and shellfish.

Once a food has been introduced and your baby has no reaction, keep offering it regularly as part of their usual diet.

Higher risk of allergy? If your baby has eczema, an existing food allergy, or a close family history of allergies, talk to your GP or health visitor before introducing these foods. They may suggest a plan, or a referral to an allergy specialist.

Building skills

Textures, timing and safe preparation

Babies learn to chew by practising with new textures. Moving on gradually matters: babies who only have smooth purees for a long time can find lumps harder to accept later.

Grapes, carrots and sausage cut into safer shapes for young children
Age (roughly)TexturesMeals
Around 6 monthsSmooth or mashed food, soft finger foodsStart with small tastes, once a day
7 to 9 monthsMashed and chopped food, more finger foodsBuild up to 3 meals a day
10 to 12 monthsChopped family food, a wider range of finger foods3 meals a day, plus milk
From 12 monthsMost family food, cut up safely3 meals and 2 healthy snacks a day

Gagging is common while babies learn. It is noisy and usually clears on its own. Choking is different: it is often silent, and your baby cannot cry, cough or breathe. Always stay with your baby while they eat, and learn baby first aid.

How to cut and prepare food safely: allergies and choking hazards.

Responsive feeding

Let your baby lead

Responsive feeding means watching your baby's signals and responding to them. It helps babies learn to eat to their appetite.

Signs they want more

  • Leaning towards the spoon or food
  • Opening their mouth
  • Reaching for food
  • Getting excited when food appears

Signs they have had enough

  • Turning their head away
  • Closing their mouth
  • Pushing food or the spoon away
  • Crying or getting upset

Never force your baby to eat more than they want. Some days they will eat a lot, and other days very little. That is normal.

The move to family meals

From first bites to family food

By about 12 months, most babies can eat a version of what the rest of the family eats. This is one of the easiest ways to reduce extra cooking.

Family-style tomato pasta served from one bowl with small plates
  • Cook without salt, then take your baby's portion out before adding salt, stock cubes or strong sauces for adults.
  • Eat together when you can. Babies learn by watching you eat.
  • Offer water in an open or free-flow cup with meals from around 6 months.
  • Keep offering refused foods. It can take many tries before a baby accepts a new taste.

Foods to avoid in the first year

  • Honey before 12 months, because of the risk of infant botulism.
  • Added salt and sugar, including salty snacks, stock cubes and sugary drinks.
  • Whole nuts and peanuts until at least 5 years old, because of the choking risk.
  • Cow's milk as a main drink before 12 months, and rice drinks before 5 years.
  • Raw or lightly cooked shellfish, and shark, swordfish or marlin.
  • Unpasteurised cheese, and soft mould-ripened or blue cheeses unless cooked.

Speak to your GP or health visitor if your baby has any reaction to a food, struggles to swallow, or is not gaining weight as expected.

FAQ

Common questions

Does my baby need vitamins?

In the UK, the NHS recommends vitamin D for breastfed babies from birth, and vitamin drops containing vitamins A, C and D for babies from 6 months who have less than 500ml of formula a day. Ask your health visitor what is right for your baby.

How much milk should my baby still have?

Breast milk or formula remains the main drink throughout the first year. As your baby eats more solid food, they may naturally take a little less milk. Follow their lead and ask your health visitor if you are unsure.

Is baby-led weaning better than spoon feeding?

Neither is better for every family. What matters most is offering a range of foods and textures, letting your baby lead the pace, and staying with them while they eat. Many families use a mix of both.

My baby spits everything out. Should I stop?

No. New tastes and textures take time to get used to. Keep offering small amounts calmly, and try the same foods again on other days.

Sources

Where this guide comes from

This guide is general information, not medical advice. Always follow advice from your own doctor or health visitor, especially if your baby was born early or has a medical condition.

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