Free parenting guide · Screen time · 5 min read

How to reduce screen time without changing everything at once

Set clearer limits, make transitions easier and build screen-free alternatives that work in real family life.

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If you only do one thing

Change one moment, not the whole day.

Pick the screen moment that causes the most friction and start there.

Step 1Agree the end first

Before the screen goes on, agree when it will go off.

Step 2Give a warning

Five minutes' notice, then stop at a natural end.

Step 3Have the next thing ready

A snack, a game or a bath gives your child something to move to.

What the guidance says

How much screen time is recommended?

Advice varies a little between countries, but it points in the same direction: less for the youngest children, and quality and context matter as much as minutes.

AgeUK government (2026)World Health OrganizationAmerican Academy of Pediatrics
Under 2Avoid screens, except shared family activities such as video callsScreen time not recommendedAvoid screens other than video calls before 18 months; after that, choose high-quality content and watch together
2 to 5Try to keep it to about 1 hour a day, less if possibleNo more than 1 hour a day for 2 to 4 year olds; less is betterAbout 1 hour a day of high-quality programmes, ideally watched together
Older childrenNot covered by the under-5s guidanceNo specific limitConsistent family limits, so screens don't replace sleep, activity or time together

The UK's Best Start in Life screen time guidance, published in 2026, also recommends three habits that matter a lot for young children:

  • No screens in the hour before bed, as they can affect sleep.
  • Screen-free mealtimes, to protect time together.
  • No screens on in the background during family time, meals or play.

It also encourages watching and talking about programmes together, which supports children's development and helps protect them from unsuitable content.

Step 1

Make a simple family media plan

A family media plan is a set of agreed rules about when, where and how screens are used. The AAP has a free tool to help you make one.

Family sitting together on the floor planning the day on a large sheet
  1. Notice what happens now

    For one ordinary week, jot down when screens are used and which moments cause the most arguments.

  2. Pick one anchor to change

    For example: no screens at meals, or no screens in the hour before bed. One change is easier to stick to than five.

  3. Choose screen-free places

    Many families keep screens out of bedrooms and away from the dinner table.

  4. Decide what is watched

    Choose age-appropriate programmes and apps, and watch or play together when you can.

  5. Include the adults

    Children copy what they see. Putting your own phone away at meals makes the rules feel fair.

Step 2

Make turning screens off easier

Many battles happen at the moment a screen ends. A predictable routine makes that moment less of a shock.

Parent and child at a table with a tablet set aside and building blocks out

Agree the end first

Before starting, agree when it will end: "One episode, then bath."

Give a warning

"Five more minutes." A visual timer helps children see time passing.

Stop at a natural end

The end of an episode or a level is easier than stopping mid-game.

Have the next thing ready

A snack, a game or going outside gives your child something to move towards.

Try saying

  • "It's hard to stop when it's fun. Time to turn it off now."
  • "You can choose: you press off, or I will."
  • "The show will still be there tomorrow."

Try to avoid

  • Switching it off with no warning
  • "Okay, just one more" after you've said it's finished
  • Using screens as the only reward or punishment

Step 3

Have easy alternatives ready

Screens are often used because they work when parents need a few minutes. Having quick alternatives ready for those moments helps.

The momentQuick screen-free ideas
While you cookA box of play dough, stickers or pots and pans to play with, or helping with a simple job
After nursery or schoolA snack, time outside, or a quiet den with books
Waiting or travellingI-spy, a small bag of toys, or drawing
Before bedA bath, stories or a calm puzzle

When to get support

Talk to your GP, health visitor or school if screen use seems to be causing bigger problems, for example if your child:

  • has very intense, frequent or aggressive meltdowns when screens end
  • is losing sleep, or is often very tired
  • has lost interest in play, friends or activities they used to enjoy
  • seems anxious, low or withdrawn
  • has delays in speech or development that worry you

FAQ

Common questions

Are educational apps better?

Some high-quality programmes can support learning, especially when you watch and talk about them together. But young children still learn most from play, talk and real-life activities.

Do video calls with family count?

Video calls with grandparents and family are generally seen differently from other screen time, because they involve real interaction.

My child has a meltdown every time the tablet goes off. What now?

That is very common. Keep the routine the same each time: warning, natural end, next activity ready. Stay calm and hold the limit. It usually gets easier within a couple of weeks. See temper tantrums: where to start.

How long before bed should screens go off?

UK government guidance for under-5s recommends avoiding screens for the hour before bed. Keeping devices out of bedrooms at night helps too.

Sources

Where this guide comes from

This guide is general information, not medical advice. Every family is different; adapt these ideas to your child's age and needs.

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